Fix from Afar?

Let us prepare for death. Please stop enabling.

Amy Winehouse's father has written her eulogy. Her father-in-law has suggested that fans stop buying her work so that she and his son, Blake Fielder-Civil, will not have the money to continue their drug and other addictions. Together in their concern, they are at odds over which child is the catalyst for the joint troubles.

Can a father do more than complain once a child has left home and won't return?

** The questions for every dad: where did I go wrong and how do I fix it now? **