Tuesday, November 30, 2010

That Time of The Month

New research found women, 18 to 22, spend fewer cell phone minutes on their fathers during their ovulation phases. Other research "discovered" they were more than four times as likely to call mum during the same time. Given the "flexible sensitivities" of many daughters during this time, I don't think we will need more research to answer the question of whether this is a problem for the fathers.

Monday, November 29, 2010

A Father's Complaint; A Child's Opportunity

Every fathers' complaint is a child's opportunity. That's the lesson to be learned from Bryce Gunderman, 8 of Honeoye Falls, N.Y. When Gunderman's pops complained about the mess of cords entangled on the kitchen counter he got to work. The result is a patent and, he hopes, thunderous amounts of money flowing down around him.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Not Him But Her

Lack of marriage is something of a stumbling block for fatherhood, although not in any biological sense. The U.S. Supreme Court is currently considering whether it's okay to continue granting greater rights to unmarried women than to unmarried men.

Specifically, an unmarried woman who is an American citizen passes along those "rights and privileges" to her foreign-born spawn if she trod upon one or more States for at least one year. However, for male, unmarried citizens, the law as of 1952 has been that he has to spend at least five years and after the age of 14 in-country to have (and give) the same rights as a distaffer in the same, unmarried and parenting position. Doesn't seem constitutional, but ...

The case was brought by Ruben Flores-Villar, 36, under threat of deportation because it was his dad, not mom who was the citizen. The early reports are that the Supremes, led by the thinking of Justices Roberts and Scalia, were likely to punt and issue no decision because ... well just because they can if something is too difficult for them to decide.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Train Keeps Blowing

What do you do if your dad is a music legend who died when you were two and your childhood home has been given a national historic designation? If you're Ravi Coltrane, son of sax genius John, you just chill and blow.

RC, a constant touring presence, is also getting ready for the spring release of his first cd for Blue Note records ... staying well within the jazz family, but going where his father never did — at least label-wise.

Like father:

Like son:

Monday, November 22, 2010

My Daddy Done Told Me

"My father told me," claims Ray Charles Robinson Jr., "'You have my name, and you'll be able to use it.'" What he apparently didn't say was that you could use my lyrics and photos of me without permission.  And so, the Ray Charles Foundation is suing the singer's child who carries his name over copyright infringement.

You Don't Know Me: Reflections of My Father, Ray CharlesYou Don't Know Me, Junior's collection of thoughts on his father, has been on shelves for months now. But only now has the foundation formed to manage the affairs of the singing genius decided that the best way to deal with unruly children is to sue them.

Could that possibly work for living fathers?

Saturday, November 20, 2010

A Father's Plea Inspires Hope and Questions

"I don't know what more to say than I love you I miss you and I want to see you," is how Walnut Creek (Calif.) father Michael Smith ends his YouTube plea to son Zachary and daughter Chelsea. The children were taken by their mother in 1997, when Smith began to press for full custody after being cleared of numerous abuse charges lodged by his (by then) ex-wife.

In Smith's telling, the FBI recently found his son and daughter, but they are both older than 18 and cannot be compelled to see their father ... and told Gmen they weren't interested in getting together for old time's sake. It is not clear from the seven minute plea to his children what happened to the mom or whether what she did was illegal. In fact, the seven minutes tell much, but leave even more unanswered about this father's story. He tells of the Christian he became in 1995 — the children were taken in 1997 — but there is no hint of what that meant to his wife. He also alludes to the pre-religious years of his life when he was "a bad man." He also mentions the marriage one year after his children went missing that suggests many questions.

Should his children accept the plea and get back in touch or the mom comes forward, a more complete picture of one dad's story will be filled.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Dad Designs

Graphic advice and perspectives for the dad-to-be has just been released  via Ideo's Designs on Birth, from "an international, web-based community for designers and design enthusiasts." One can, of course stick to a traditional source, like Parenting Mag's take on the advice for new pops thing: "...it can be hard to connect with a being you can't see, feel or touch, but you can still do things that matter, from putting money aside for a college education to learning how to change a diaper..."

More amusing, however, is the Ideo-posted, Ikea-like instruction sheet

And for a better sensory experience of what will be coming with the labor, there is also the documentary-like video advisory:

Men in Labour from IDEO on Vimeo.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Humor Me, Son

Despite all the analysis of how Bush 41 and 43 react and deal with each other, their's remains a unique and in many ways inexplicable father-son bond.The most recent example of how other-worldly is their relationship comes with 43's current Decision Points book-tour stop on Fox and Friends. He related what is supposed to be his dad's joke (although the meme "are my testicles black" has been around for a while) with a nurse anecdote from the book. It's black (ball) humor based on poor diction told by a loving son about an adored father. Somewhere in there is a key to the parent-child world of the Bushes. Somewhere. Somewhere ...

Monday, November 15, 2010

Cole Miner? Daughter

For the most part, Nat "King" Cole is missing and omnipresent from daughter Natalie Cole's reminisce of her struggles and faith, Love Brought Me Back. The new book is a rather slim (176 pages) look at only two years of her life. Those are the "highlights" of her slide down from the heights she reached singing through electronic magic with her iconic father, she picked up Hep C — possibly through heroin use — and was saved by a liver transplant.

Love Brought Me Back: A Journey of Loss and GainHer second memoir, it seems a strange way to try and revitalize and publicize a career. That said, the oddity of this as a career move may be a result of not knowing how much of her father to include in her work. She achieved a following staying far away from his music, but had her greatest success — and received some of the most stinging criticism — when she duetted with daddy in Unforgettable. And after the peak (chronicled in memoir No. 1, Angel on My Shoulder) came the struggle of whether she truly honored or her father or lived off him ... and the fall into book No. 2.

She has her health again, but the struggle continues. Can she be her own artist or just her father's daughter. And if not one or the other, how does she blend both for career success and personal happiness?

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Will You Root-o for Rizzuto?

For most people, the Sandwich Generation years (i.e., when you assume responsibility for both parents and children) are difficult. However, Montreal's Teflon Don, Vito Rizzuto seems to have found himself a somewhat worry free way to make it through those years: he went to prison and his father and son got whacked. One inconvenience of his incarceration, he missed out on the funeral for his son (who got his in a back alley while looking at some real estate he was purchasing) and now for his pops (who was taken out at age 86 by a sniper while he ate dinner in his home).

It's all part of the Montreal Mafia Wars that have likely brought an end to the Rizzuto family. However, before one consigns the Rizzuto's to history it should be noted that the meat of the sandwich, Vito, is set to be sprung in 2012.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Dad's Daggy

The headlines are that Mick Jagger's daughter Georgia May — third of four kids with ex-wife Jerry Hall and one of seven claimed children altogether — believes dad is daggy. The not-unsurprising, not news: she seems to have no clue that as just another legsome blonde her fame is sliced from dad's.

Mick's brood: just more daddy dissers. Alas ...

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Sometimes a Cigar Is Just a Smoke

Busted! A proud new pop in Uniontown, Pa., lit up that which was not a celebratory cigar in the designated smoking area. Unfortunately for him, the sweet, distinctive marijuana odor caught the nose of a passing nurse, who mentioned it to the cop on the beat. It is not clear whether the still-anonymous dad is heading for a court date. He did, after all, give a perfectly reasonable explanation to the policeman: "I'm having a baby and wanted to get a buzz," according to the Pittsburgh Tribune-Review report.

If he does face the mellow-crushing threat of slammer time, he could certainly do worse than calling the daddy-daughter firm of Margolin & Margolin. Father Bruce has been battling anti-doobie laws for more than 30 years; daughter Allison — a grad of Columbia University and Harvard Law — now goes by the moniker L.A.'s dopest attorney. After all, a father and child devoted to marijuana reform? Who is going to work harder for a new father just trying to chill?

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Dissecting Daddy


Noted Indian doctor BS Ramannavar fought for Indian independence and set up free camps to treat the dentistry needs of poor country men. And all that is good and a wonderful legacy for his son, Dr. Mahantesh B Ramannavar of the KLE University’s Shri BM Kankanawadi Ayurvedic Medical College Hospital. A much more troubling gift, however, is the will mandate where two years after his death son has to dissect father for the edification of the college's anatomy students.

Monday, November 8, 2010

If I Were Your Packager

With a foreword by Chicken Soup and book packaging guru Jack Canfield, it certainly appears Julia Espey is on the right track with her package of If I were Your Daddy, This Is What You'd Learn. The entrepreneurial single mom has collected the essays of 35 mostly white, mostly politically conservative  gents. Her collective of fathering wisdom runs the gamut from A to W (i.e., Harvard shrink Abraham to Fatherhood Initiative Warren) and are all seem to have become involved as a way to promote their own projects and constuencies.

Is there good advice? The author seems to think so.

Still, on the most superficial of critical levels there seems to be a possibility of falling off that Chicken Soup track via the disconnect between the title of the book aiming at one audience (children) while the sales pitch is clearly aimed at another (moms or moms-to-be who buy books for fathers or fathers-to-be). Slurp up.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

Just Do It

The British charity Working Families sponsored two years of research and guess what? According to the research, as reported by The Guardian, fathers who work at work and around the house are happier than those who don't vacuum and iron and wash dishes and take care of the kids and .... Why would that be?

Porn for WomenPorn for New Moms: From the Cambridge Women's Pornography CooperativeApparently the answer isn't news. The study also fits with a 2007 study that suggested doing the laundry gets men more sex with their partner; and a 2009 claim that more housework means more and happier sex for both moms and pops. Oh, and it also confirms the dreams of the Cambridge Women's Pornography Cooperative, at least as demonstrated with their Porn for Women (2007) and Porn for New Moms (2009).

Friday, November 5, 2010

People Demand It

Demand Media prides itself on creating online crap people clamor for. Within that empire are hallmarky style cartoons from FlowGo to tell dad — in someone else's words — how much you care for and think about him. Samples to yank at saccharin heart strings include:

Does such treacle bring in lots of pennies one click at a time? If you even thought of forwarding one or searching for "just the right one" then you have your answer.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

What's His Line?

There is no way around the biology: One can't father alone. What "the choice" of mate say about the father, however, is not always a clear message. For example, does Sunderland's Keith Macdonald make poor choices about "girlfriends" or is he just unlucky in love?

MacDonald, 25, fathered first at age 15. Now, he is dad of nine children by nine mums — or possibly 15 kids by 14 women. His latest breakup offers little clarification of the state of mind for the unemployed (clearly no amateur he) progenitor. It seems his pregnant-with-twins, 24-year-old latest went a wandering after spending three months in cohabiting bliss. An unemployed 20-year-old DJ has captured her heart and so she is off to raise her babies — her last she promises — with him. Poor Keith will apparently be left with nothing but the solace available from his nine or 15 or however many children he has ... unless, somehow, his heart (cough!?!?, cough!?!?) allows him to rebound once more.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Finding the Right Words

A father doesn't have to be around to make a father proud. Witness the spot-on rejoinder of Roseanne Cash to the senseless invocation of her father's name by Ohio congressman Boehner.

Monday, November 1, 2010

Peering into the Beyond

Losing his father in life has sent Springfield's (Ill.) Steve Giddings in search of his father in death. Father Floyd was injured by your fairly typical maniac — he brought an axe to rather than from a hardware store — and was never right after that, dying when Steve was 19.

Since then, the son has wondered and worried. However, thanks to the Springfield Ghost Society, the son was encouraged to visit his father's grave. In a bonus, not only did he receive comfort from hearing from his dad, but his grandfather chimed in as well.

The candy isn't important: Happy Halloween SG.