What, Not Who

If you could only imagine the fears you can't imagine upon becoming a father. Concerns about how fatherhood will effect your work are well known — consider how many people were writing off golf phenom Tiger Woods on the eve of his nuptials, saying it would lead to children and a dousing of his competitive fire. Which isn't close to predicting his success since the birth of daughter Sam Alexis last June has worked out.

And while you know you will have to provide for your family, the worry about how long (the Bombay High Court insists it is until you get your daughter married, also part of your duty) and to what extent certainly can weigh you down.

However, there is always more out there than one, two maybe even three or four people's imagination can conceive. Just fear for the poor potential dad whose wife sought "Dear Abby"'s advice because he was an ugly child and she was worried their child might not be as pretty as her previous two that he currently step-fathers.

** It's not who you do (as a single), but what you do (as a father). **