Letting Go (?)

With the new year comes the question of what do you let go of to move forward and what do you keep to help you plot your way?

In some cases it's an easier question to answer than in others. So, we applaud Jay Richardson's plan to put a slightly used 16-gauge coffin on eBay to see what bread he can dig up. It's not as if his father,rock and roll pioneer The Big Bopper, will need it any more after being exhumed and (re)autopsied 48 years after the plane taking him to his next gig crashed in an Iowa cornfield.

As quixotic as it may have seemed, it also seems right that John and Bruce Abele didn't give up their search until they found the WWII sub in which their dad sank. He and they can now rest in peace.

It is also clear that Lon Adams, 58, of Metaire, La., needed to share his father with the world sooner than he was willing to. He said he last saw his dad a bit over two years ago when he headed up to bed and that he hadn't checked on him since. Police chose not to accept the story of how they came to find the bones of the 81-year-old man staring at the bedroom ceiling.

However, what should be counseld for Long Beach 5-year-old Dieon Rin? His father has been permanently banished to Cambodia and it is not clear if they will ever get a chance to see each other again. Does he let go and begin to build his life or does he never let go of the dream of being reunited?

It's a new year. Which way is the right way to go?